Couple’s Counseling with Confidence Part 2 – What Should You Expect in Your Couple’s Counseling Sessions?

Introduction

Couples counseling is an opportunity to seek guidance to navigate the complexities of relationships. Understanding what to expect from these sessions can alleviate anxiety and help partners approach therapy with an open mind. This post delves into the dynamics of couples therapy, offering insights into session duration, format, and approaches.

How Long Are Couple’s Counseling Sessions?

Typically, couple’s counseling sessions last about an hour. However, some clients might be scheduled for longer sessions, potentially up to two hours. This extended duration is generally reserved for couples who are equipped to handle more intense conversations. Although longer sessions might seem beneficial, they can be emotionally taxing, risking the breakdown of essential communication flows.

Who Attends These Sessions?

Most often, both partners attend couple’s counseling sessions together. Whether in-person or via telehealth, couples are encouraged to participate simultaneously. The convenience and efficacy of telehealth have made it a popular choice, though it comes with its own advantages and drawbacks.

There are instances where individual sessions with each partner are necessary. These one-on-one meetings allow a deeper dive into personal histories and dynamics affecting the relationship. Topics that might be too intense for joint discussions can be addressed separately to foster a clearer understanding.

What Happens in a Couple’s Counseling Session?

The structure of couple’s counseling sessions varies with each therapist’s style. Many sessions resemble conversations where the therapist asks probing questions to uncover the visible and hidden challenges faced by the couple. Some therapists may employ guided conversations, correcting communication issues like poor language or unhelpful body language.

Alternatively, therapists could engage more directly, collaborating with partners to reshape perspectives and understandings. Techniques like role plays or alternating speaking and listening turns might be used. Importantly, the therapy space should remain a haven where difficult topics are explored without hostility, derogatory remarks, or negative behaviors.

A Consultant’s Approach to Couple’s Counseling

In my work with couples, I take on a dual role as a consultant and therapist. I provide straight answers and rely on both research and my experience to guide significant changes in relationships. If certain behaviors are unproductive, I address them candidly. My approach is transparent and straightforward, aiming to dispel any guesswork about my perspectives.

While I maintain a serious attitude towards therapy, humor is a valuable tool to lighten heavy topics, making couples feel at ease. It’s worth noting that my sessions rarely include role plays or in-session activities, like hugging before departing. For those disinclined towards such practices, I recommend discussing these preferences with your therapist before beginning.

Conclusion

Entering couples counseling can be daunting, but knowledge is empowering. Understanding the nuances of session structures, therapist approaches, and individual engagement paves the way for more productive therapy experiences. Remember, the right therapist will tailor methods to ensure they align with what works best for you and your partner.

Be sure to watch Part 3 of my Couple’s Counseling with Confidence series in which I talk about what couples talk about in a couple’s counseling session!